The collapse of a pledge or agreement should be cause for concern so why are you breathing an enormous sigh of relief on December 23d? Probably because this is something you never wanted anything to do with in the first place. You had your fair share of doubts from the start but didn't voice them because you felt obligated and/or guilty. As you distance yourself from this situation keep in mind that this could happen again. Every time you don't speak up you're leading people to believe that you're happy with something when you're not. Do yourself a favor next time and just say “no.”